Do You Struggle To Set Clear Limits?

Do you struggle to set clear limits? 

How you set and enforce them makes all the difference.  

1. A clear limit is established ahead of time. There are no surprises.  Children know what they may do and what you will do if they do not comply. For example, before they turn on a video you inform them that they may watch videos until dinner is ready, but if they fuss when it is time to stop, there will be no video tomorrow.
2. There is NO second chance. Once dinner is ready re-state the limit by saying, “Dinner is ready, the video needs to go off.  Remember if you fuss there is no video tomorrow.” If they fuss, calmly state “I hear fussing that means no video tomorrow. This is when they beg, “Please, let me have one more chance.” And you must say, “No, tonight when you did not turn it off, you decided there would be no video. Next time you can make a different decision.”

Clear limits teach children that they can DECIDE how to respond and that they are responsible for their actions. This is the foundation of self-discipline.

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